When Did You Die? 8 Steps to Stop Dying Every Day and Start Waking Up by Rev Temple Hayes, reviewed by Debbie Allen, LUT
Have you ever been involved in a major accident or experienced a life-threatening condition?
Have you ever lost a loved one from death or separation and you are not completely at peace with it?
Have you ever had major surgery?
Do you explain, justify or defend yourself at least once a week?
Do you have sugar and/or carbohydrate cravings?
Do you long for something more in life?
Do you feel not seen or heard by a number of people in your life?
Are you waiting for something to happen so you can then be happy?
These are a few of the questions that Rev Temple Hayes poses to her readers at the start of her book When Did You Die? 8 Steps to Stop Dying Every Day and Start Waking Up. She shares that even if you answer “yes” to two of these questions, you are a person who has been dying a bit every day. You are living a life of disconnection and distraction. You are not living the full potential life your Creator meant for you to live—a life in which you are born with all the innate gifts you need to be rich, healthy and happy.
You might wonder, “If this is true, why am I living the life that I am?” Temple proposes that we are living in an old paradigm that has been passed down to us. It does not serve us, but also does not ask much from us. It does not fulfill our dreams and expectations. It is now time to create a new paradigm and a new life. It is time to let go of fear, insecurities and other people’s definition of who we are that stand in our way of living to our fullest potential. It is time to recognize that we are ordained by Spirit to live free of hang-ups of the past and to share the message of who we came here to be.
Temple shares with us eight steps to stop dying and to regain energy and passion in our lives. In stories from her life she shows us how little things can have significant effect in how we see ourselves and how we let others define us. Slowly and loving she guides us through the traumatic and some not-so-traumatic life experiences to come out the other side better for having taken the trip.
In step one “Time to Wake Up,” we are shown how to put our whole selves into our lives, to have our hearts open, and how to find our true selves and to love that true self the way God does. Even as a child, Temple challenged the norm and questioned a belief system that was not working for her.
In “From Fear, to Feeling, to Freedom,” she explores with us our fears, how we feel about them, and how they can hold us back from being free to experience the best life we can imagine. Temple walks us through how to move from fear to trust. She encourages us to trust that the answer existed before the problem. Trust is like a muscle that has to be exercised to develop strength. She shares how she came to those defining moments and how their outcomes made her stronger mentally and spiritually.
In the following steps you travel with Temple fearlessly through her life of discovery and realization. You learn how to restore all parts of your soul, how to be reborn as the real you, and how to take what you have learned about yourself into fulfilling and healthy relationships. Temple shows you how to allow, not make, your dreams come true.
There comes a time in our lives that we all must face those shadows (and we all have them) that have been holding us immobile. We use self-talk to negate our true feeling about a situation and try to convince ourselves it is all right when it really isn’t. We are encouraged to look at how in every life there is also a death and how to be responsible in that death.
We are often told in Unity that to change your life you must change your thinking. Changing your thinking is really useless unless you put your heart into the process. Opening your heart to these new ideas are what changes your life. Temple shares, “When we learn to lead from the heart rather than from the head, we will have true leaders who can bring humanity into a deeper awareness of spirituality.”
Temple shares her adventure openly through stories of her life and the lives of others to guide you on a path that leads to being fully awake and to enjoying the life you were meant to live. By sharing your individual message, you can help change the lives of others. Each step has thought-provoking ideas, motivating and useful tools with daily practices to help you get a solid grasp on your life. With the steps in this book you will be able to answer the question “When did you die?” with a resounding never!